Archive for September, 2010

September 18th, 2010
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Duchess Digest: Five Tips for Long Distance Success

After watching the recent new release Going the Distance, I began to ponder just how many relationships have survived long distance and how do both sides make it work? You have likely either been in a long distance relationship or have a close friend who has so you know all too well the challenges that these particular partnerships can sometimes present. Not to worry! We’ve discovered a lovely dating expert to help share some tips to make things work when you’re doing the long distance ‘thing!’

Rochelle Peachey is a dating expert and founder of the site ‘I Love Your Accent’ ( Who better then a British born Florida living dating site founder to help you navigate and go the distance? Rochelle is about to share with you 5 ways to keep the flame burning, even from a distance! Or as she says, “there’s no doubt about it, being one half of a Long Distance Relationship can be tough on your heart but here are a few tips to keep the flame burning while you are apart.”

  1. Communicate constantly by Phone, Text, Skype yes all three. Try to personally say goodnight on the phone but if that’s not possible text some sweet and maybe sexy words so he/she falls asleep with you as the last voice they hear. A wake up call from you is wonderful also, sets them up for the day.
  2. Plan the day you will be together again, talk about where you will go and what you will do (to each other)!
  3. Use good old fashion mail! There is still something special about receiving a gift or cards with that special message from the one you love. Maybe because it took more thought and time than an ecard, but they are good too.
  4. As long as you both agree then get a little sexy on Skype or send him some pictures of you in that skimpy outfit or bikini he loves for you to wear. Keep that flame burning.
  5. Play games together online, laugh and always let the other person know what you are doing and how much you miss them. Words cost nothing and mean so much.

Finally, one of the greatest pieces of advice that Ms. Peachey shares which ties in perfectly with the foundational advice that Duchess always preaches is to make sure to invest in yourself and your own life – it’s a great way to make long distance run it’s course much more smoothly. As Ms. Peachey says, “Missing your love is sometimes the hardest part of all in a long distance relationship. When you have put the phone down, or you weren’t able to speak for long that day, how do you deal with the loneliness and jealousy that can sometimes creep up on you?

The real answer is to try to create a full life for yourself while you are apart. Take up a new hobby maybe something you’ve been wanting to do but never had the time. Build (or rebuild) a social life with friends and family accept invites and do your best to keep busy. Take some time for you, join the gym or book pamper day at the Spa.It’s nice to be missed, but it’s not nice to think of your partner being miserable and missing you so much it becomes unbearable.

Try to plan your life to be full and fun when you can’t be together. Let them know that absence truly does make the heart grow fonder!”

If you’re looking for another outlet for dating and love the accents of other lands, be sure to check out Rochelle’s dating and relationship site for meeting great singles. She is an author and dating expert from London England and the founder of Transatlantic dating site She started the site because she was constantly being asked by her English friends if she could set them up with American dates and her American friends wanted to meet Brits! So if you’re looking for a new avenue for dating, check it out and remember, like Rochelle always says, “Don’t just say I Love Your Accent, be a part of it.”

And that’s great dating advice according to the fabulous Rochelle Peachey and her new convert, the Duchess.

September 9th, 2010
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I’m dating again……Help!

I’m dating again……Help!

So you are back in the dating game, a game you thought you wouldn’t have to participate in again and certainly not at the ripe old age of 35 or 40. It may seem daunting and yes indeed, times have changed, there is no need to go to the bar or club 5 nights a week and hope the woman/man of your dreams cosies up to you and it’s a happy ever after ending.

Online dating is here in a big way and there are many great reasons to date this way especially if you are dealing with dating insecurities and who isn’t?

With online dating you can effectively “date” more than one person at a time. You need a computer and a glass of wine, no need to get dolled up just yet, that will come along when you are ready to use Skype of the websites face to face feature that many include; for now you will need a good clear picture of yourself and make sure it’s a recent one. Uploading a picture when you were eight years younger and ate less food just makes people angry when they don’t get to meet the person they saw in the picture. Follow these easy steps and you will be dating in no time.

Step one.  Take a good Picture or get a friend to snap you in a great light.

Step two. Write a killer profile and decide on a unique user name to pique their interest.

Step Three. Stay positive at all times.

Dating online is not all about getting 50 emails in your inbox each time you log on, its about getting quality replies from people you could really get to know. Don’t wait for members to email you, if you like the look of them and have an interest in getting to know more, send them a flirt or a short email introducing yourself. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

This kind of dating eases you back into the dating game and takes away your dating insecurities because you control the pace at which you date, if someone comes across as pushy or rude, hit the block button and its goodbye forever!

When you feel comfortable with the person you have been corresponding with and decide to meet them you will probably know a lot more about them and their interests than if you had met in a local bar.  Hopefully it works out well but if it doesn’t you may have just increased your circle of friends.

Have fun and stay safe and if you have any dating issues or dating insecurities that you would like me to address please email me and I will do my best to find the answer.  Don’t just say I Love Your accent, be a part of it.

September 3rd, 2010
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THIS WEEKEND IS BUSIEST WEDDING WEEKEND OF 2010! A lot of Brits will be ‘getting to the church on time’ this weekend as nearly 7,000 weddings take place over three days.
With that said, would like to send special wishes to Jason and Valerie our 5th couple to tie the knot. Although they wont be walking down the aisle in the UK Jason is a Brit from Yorkshire who found love with a beautiful American woman on our site and tomorrow they will say “I do” in a small romantic ceremony in Antigua.
Congratulations from all of us at ILYA. Don’t just say I Love Your Accent, be a part of it.