Online Safety?  Its just Common Sense

There are many articles and features written by experts and gurus advising women and men how to stay safe when dating or chatting with someone online. I am not going to go down that same route because all I will be doing is rehashing what every one else has said except for one thing.  No one ever mentions good old fashioned common sense and its all you need to date safely and have a good time.

Common sense should tell you never to give out personal details to a stranger, even if he says he’s a Doctor, Soldier, Lawyer or a philanthropist working in Nigeria. That same common sense should kick in if any of the above ask you for cash. Even if its for a sick child which seems to be the lie of choice. common sense  should be whispering in your ear telling you that this is a scam. It doesn’t matter that the person is emailing you how wonderful you are and how pleased they are that the good Lord sent you to them, its all part of the scam and you cannot allow your heart to rule your head.

It amazes me that people and its usually women still get caught by these scammers. Why on earth would you wire money to someone you have never met?  Why are you sending thousands of dollars (pounds) through Western Union to someone you have been chatting to online? No matter what promises they gave you, its just kiss your cash goodbye and once they have it you will get the kiss off  too. They will change their email address and you will be history as they move on to the next one.

So no need for top tips to keep safe online, you need just one Common Sense.

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Scammer Alert

Scammers delete their profiles really fast – claiming they “found you – I don’t need wait for more”.

• Don’t believe in one photo – it is nice to get a lovely photo but be adamant to get another one that proves this person is real – ask them to hold a copy of today’s paper or whatever and check for obvious photo shop stuff.  Does their picture look as though they just stepped out of Vogue or GQ? Scammer! If there is no photo at all and they are not willing to provide one, move on quickly.
• People who want to go on messenger with you and don’t have a working camera are scammers – why else would you move to messenger? Messenger is as personal as it gets.

• Use a new email – don’t use your personal one where you store other important information and never use your company email!
• Be aware of overly warm language – if the “dear”, “sweetie” and “missed you so much” sentences crop up very early at a stage where you really don’t know anything about each other you have a scammer. Have a “blessed day” and “dearly beloved” are a couple of phrases to watch out for.
• Ask for specifics – if a person claims to be from a certain area, ask about things you know that are there. Make up wrong things and see if they claim they are true. “Oh I loved to go to the Ivy there – wonderful pub, is it still around?”
• Don’t ever send money- it doesn’t matter how heart wrenching the story sounds, if someone is asking you to lend them cash, they are without doubt trying to scam you.

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Iloveyouraccent.com celebrates as lovebirds take to the skies after finding love online.

New York, NY” It’s not impossible to find true love online these days” says Rochelle Peachey, founder of Iloveyouraccent.com, and she should know, her dating site will celebrate its third marriage in June, a huge feather it its relatively new cap. “17 percent of the couples who got married in the U.S. met online” Peachey states. “The stigma and concealment of finding a partner online has long gone, It’s not a big deal to say ‘yes we met on iloveyouraccent.com, on the contrary, these people are taking charge of their lives and actually doing something productive”. The author and dating guru will attend the Florida nuptials of her latest success story as guest of honor ” Iloveyouraccent.com has only been running for 6 months and the site is responsible for 3 weddings, its more than gratifying”.

Vanessa is a Brit who saw Iloveyouraccent.com back in November when the site was in its testing stages. “Jack sent me a flirt and that was it, we chatted on email and then Instant Message, he made a joke about coming to Manchester and I said I would make him dinner. Next week he was here. I couldn’t believe it, all the way from California. Three weeks later we were married and I was packing my bags and heading to the sunshine with my new husband.”

Jacqueline is also a Brit who flew to Miami, Florida with a friend after a long-term relationship broke down and signed up to I Love Your Accent “just to see what it was all about”. She started chatting to Derek a Brit who lived in Fort Lauderdale. They met for a cocktail, had a wonderful evening and Jacqueline is still there 2 months later. The lovebirds will be getting married in June and both sets of parents are flying in for the ceremony. Apparently, life couldn’t be better. “Derek has an American accent now and I love it,” Jacqueline laughs.

Anthony met Julie while on a business trip in Las Vegas. He had already joined Iloveyouraccent.com while living in London and purposely searched for someone to have a few drinks with while there. They had been chatting for a while when he told her he was going to be in Vegas the following week and she was ecstatic. “I love his accent, the way he says Ant-ony and I say Anthony, my girlfriends are so jealous.” As the fairytale goes, they fell in love and were married last month in the Little White Wedding Chapel. Anthony is relocating to Vegas and hopes it’s the beginning of a delicious life.

Online dating and stepping outside of the comfort zone may not be everyone’s cup of tea but casting the net a little wider across the pond could reel in the that special someone and open up opportunities worldwide.

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It appears Hugh Grant is destined to find love sooner or later, according to a new survey which reveals which accents make American and British women swoon.

The actor’s synonymous posh English voice was deemed the sexiest in a poll of female members of new international dating website iloveyouraccent.com, which allows Brits and Americans to find love on both sides of the Atlantic.

The survey of over 700 members revealed that 66 per cent of American women find the posh English voice the most attractive, as do 52 per cent of British women. However, at the other end of the scale, the Brummie accent is the biggest vocal turn-off according to a whopping 71 per cent of British women and 63 per cent of Americans.

Irish men will be in luck this Valentines Day with 23 per cent of British women and 21 per cent of Americans attracted to a guy with an accent like Colin Farrell. Not so lucky are lads from Liverpool; the Scouse accent was voted second least popular by 11 per cent of British girls, whilst the Welsh accent also received the thumbs down from Americans  – with 10 per cent voting it their second least favourite accent.

Other findings from the iloveyouraccent.com survey show that British women have a serious thing for a man in uniform. Asked what they see as the sexiest job for a guy, 64 per cent of UK girls responded that a fireman ticks all the right boxes, followed by 12 per cent who said that doctors have the phwoar factor.

A staggering 60 per cent of American women think that the job of a construction worker is the sexiest when it comes to the opposite sex, raising the prospect of an army of British builders hopping on a flight across the pond! Lawyers also have a certain something according to 11 per cent of girls from the States.

iloveyouraccent.com is the brainchild of dating expert and author Rochelle Peachey, who has dated over 2000 men on both sides of the Atlantic as research for two best-selling books, “Eat Your Lonely Heart Out” and “My Thousand Americans”. Members on iloveyouraccent.com can choose to meet someone in their respective city, but the site opens the possibility for singles in the U.K. and the U.S. to find love across the Atlantic.

Rochelle Peachey said: “This survey started as a bit of fun just to see which accents women on both sides of the pond found appealing, its now clear that we are not all that different from our American sisters when it comes to the way men sound. The Brummie accent was probably the most difficult for the Americans to understand although I have been told by American and English men that it wouldn’t matter how gorgeous a woman was, if she had a Brummie accent they would leave or pay for elocution lessons! That’s not my personal opinion so don’t shoot the messenger here.

We will definitely do a survey on what the Brits think of the American twang just so the Birmingham babes can get their own back.

Its free to sign up now and someone will win a flight to New York, so if you are fed up of hearing the same voices join us at iloveypuraccent.com and  give your eyes and ears a treat.

The name for the website derives from comments London-born Peachey receives on a constant basis in America. “Nearly every day of the week, someone tells me that they love my accent,” said Peachey. “This encourages people to think outside of the box about meeting someone. Instead of limiting yourself to people in your area, why not be adventurous and consider meeting someone from another country?”

According to research half of all British singles, nearly 7 million people, will log on to find love in 2010 in the UK.  1.4 million of them will meet someone and form a serious relationship.  A further study revealed that the number of Britons paying to use online dating agencies is set to grow to six million by 2012, creating revenues of around £368 million. Online dating is now a huge industry.

Peachey added: “Niche sites have exploded because you can just log on and find like minded people. Online dating can open up a whole new world. You can meet so many more people than if you went to a bar on a Friday night. On our site, you might even find love across the pond.”

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Easier said than done though, especially if confidence has never been your friend.
Some things are easy to change, while other idiosyncrasies will take some practice. One thing is certain though, nothing can be achieved without trying. If you never leave the house because you don’t feel so great about yourself, then unless you use an Internet dating service, no one is going to come to you and even with  online dating, negativity will come booming through. If you follow just some of these tips it will give your confidence the boost it needs whether you are a man or a woman, and remember this, confidence is sexy!

• Establish whether you’re truly ready to meet someone new. If so, then proceed. If not, take your time, you will get there.
• Make a list addressing all the things you are not comfortable with about yourself. Be brutally honest.
• Establish which things you think people may not like about you and make a list. Get a second opinion, too this will be tough to do, but you may also learn that what you perceived as a fault in you is not how others see it.
• Address the way you look and the way you dress.
• Change the things you think you can do better
• By changing the most basic aspects of your looks, lifestyle and regime, you will instantly feel more confident. You will have a new you and that’s refreshing.
• Ensure you are comfortable with any changes you make.
• Make sure you are in shape or attempting to be. If you are dieting or exercising, remember to be patient as these changes will take a little while.
• Your confidence will soar as you feel better about yourself and others will sense it.
• Start to change the routines that drag you down. If you associate with people who criticize you get rid of them fast. Negative people equal negative vibes.
• Start doing the things you wish you had always had the courage to do, like a hobby, sport or society. Don’t look back.
• Learn to enjoy the smaller things in life and give yourself time specifically for these things. If you like to cook for friends, then start having dinner parties. Don’t wait for others to invite you out.
• Stop accepting second best. Start making yourself the first priority.
• By looking and feeling good about yourself and widening your horizons, your life will begin to change for the better and your confidence levels will go up.
• Be selective about what kind of person you really like. And by the same token, talk to everyone. The more people who are interested, the higher your confidence levels.
• Start dating. If someone asks you out, accept.
• Set yourself some life goals as well as romantic goals. Other people love to be associated with driven and goal-orientated people. Confidence breeds confidence.
• Be proactive and ask someone out. Just do it, and accept freely that some people will say no. Many will also say yes.
• Learn to like and love yourself for who you are and what you want from your life. Do not allow negative family comments to influence you in any way.
• Make conversation with the nice people you meet along the way.
• Become sociable and look good at every opportunity. Be your own best advert.
• Remember that your confidence levels will become sky high by people saying yes to you. This will happen when you select the right kind of dates, so keep a realistic approach to dating.
• Walk away from anything you don’t like and instill a positive mental attitude in everything you do.  Never be afraid to say no to something you don’t want to participate  in.
• Stick with it and just keep going. Don’t go back to the old you. That’s over.  Welcome to The New You!

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The phenomenon of online dating has become as integral part of North American culture as the Internet itself. The reasons for this success story are readily apparent to millions of participants. However, as a modern outgrowth of traditional dating services, (internet) dating has had to overcome the stigma of “lonely hearts” and other negative images. No longer covert and  dodgy, participants for the most part are only too willing to tell how they met their significant other.

In North America alone the combined membership of internet-based dating agencies now exceeds 50 million. As a process of initiating relationships, online dating is steadily becoming more comprehensive and sophisticated. The rituals and once preferred methods of introduction through friends, bar encounters, blind dates and singles clubs are now viewed by many as outdated remnants of the bad old days. For anyone whoever took part in Blind dates or Set Ups through  well meaning friends, online dating is a welcome change.
The one diehard criticism of online dating involves the so-called factor of “chemistry”, which supposedly cannot be predicted through two-dimensional (internet) interactions. Consequently, on the first “real” date, weeks of involvement and intrigue may end in disappointment. The wannabe couple fails both Biology and Chemistry. Lets face it, no matter how many activities you enjoy doing as a couple, ultimately you want to desire them physically.
Through the sheer force of a vibrant technology and marketplace, online dating has evolved remarkably ad there is more in the pipeline. Wanting to speak on the phone with a potential mate but having reservations about giving out your number are long gone. Sites now have the technology where you place the call through the actual site, therefore never having to share your number until you feel comfortable. The advantages to the consumer now clearly outweigh any conceivable drawbacks.

1. Countless testimonials have related stories of genuine online chemistry and love  developing long before actual and fulfilling “first dates”
2. Many services have “flirting functionality” that allows users to make advances with minimum conversation thus avoiding unnecessary awkwardness
3. I Love Your Accent http://www.iloveyouraccent.com makes geographical barriers fade away and can open a surprising world of travel, adventure, and learning to those interested in long distance romances and friendships. A relatively new site but one that can boast 3 marriages  in only 5 months.
4. With only a few necessary resources, a computer, accessories, membership fees, you are ready, day or night, to enter the discreet and relaxed universe of cyber-dating
5. Sorting functions, profiles, search engines, pre-screening, and even personality tests  deliver quantity, quality, and especially organization to your quest for the potentially perfect date or mate
6. On the cyberspace playing field, social class and gender barriers are often overcome by the fact that every player is in the same place, to play the same game. It’s a crowded field but the possibilities are limitless!
7. Bad-hair days, nothing-to-wear, a runny nose  or other embarrassing zit-like calamities that might befall you, will never again put you in time-out, hey, you can even choose to drop a few pounds while you sort through your suitors.
8. You can avoid the fruitless, time-consuming, effort of having to find appropriate venues to meet other singles: smoky bars,  dire single’s clubs, church socials, boring parties and the well meaning set ups.
9. In the introductory stages, Instant Messaging (IM) and emails produce far fewer misread signals or anxiety than, for example, that first dinner date.
10. “Parallel” dating, by email, instant messaging, or real-time audio or visual, with as few or as many people as you like, is par for the course, no one will judge you for dating more than one  person at a time.
11. Embarrassing chance meetings with past lovers, inquisitive co-workers and your ex wife (husband) become a non-issue
12. There is no shortage of variety! Whether you are seeking an erotic encounter, true romance, religious or gay mates, the choice is seemingly endless. Some sites are free others charge a small fortune and most require a small monthly payment. You decide whether its the free for all which happens on non paying sites or the niche intimate sites that pique your interest.
13. Eliminate the many expenses of offline dating, such as dinner, movies, drinks, etc, by discovering the fatal flaws of your acquaintances online, before meeting in-person
14. E-conversations and online chatting tend to be more honest, frank, to the point, and involve less emotional risk, particularly when dealing with larger questions of compatibility. If you receive an email or an IM that you deem inappropriate , then a swift click on the” block them” button is all it takes to banish them from your world forever.
15. Whether you are on the giving or receiving end, rejection is much less messy, hurtful, or embarrassing when transacted online.
16. Most dating sites  offer tools that allow for the safety of anonymity, the avoidance of unwanted contact, and do-it-yourself screening.  Any complaints you raise about a member will usually be dealt with on your behalf.
    

So, if you’re having a hard time meeting someone offline, you might want to try meeting online Millions of people, just like you are using online dating sites to meet someone and who knows?  You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

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For Immediate Release.

London

Transatlantic dating site I Love Your Accent is excited to offer Profile Assist to help members get the most out of their online dating experience.

“For some members, writing about themselves is such a difficult task” says Rochelle Peachey the London born founder of Iloveyouraccent.com, “Its so important for you to stand out from the crowd, this is about marketing yourself to other members and to sign up with a negative or uninspiring profile is just a waste of your time”, she goes on to add that members can email the site with details about themselves and  they will do the rest. “We guarantee to show you off in the best way possible” she says. All she asks is that you provide at least one good photograph. “I can promise you a fabulous written profile but a picture speaks a thousand more words”.
Along with Profile Assist, I Love Your Accent will be giving away a  premium upgrade each week for the most creative profile.

Don’t just say I Love Your Accent, be a part of it.

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The Advantages of Online Dating.


The phenomenon of online dating has become as integral part of North American culture as the Internet itself. The reasons for this success story are readily apparent to millions of participants. However, as a modern outgrowth of traditional dating services, (internet) dating has had to overcome the stigma of “lonely hearts” and other negative images. No longer covert or seedy, members who met a significant other online are for the most part, willing to announce how they got together.

In North America alone the combined membership of internet-based dating agencies now exceeds 50 million. As a process of initiating relationships, online dating is steadily becoming more comprehensive and sophisticated. The rituals and once preferred methods of introduction through friends, bar encounters, blind dates and singles clubs are now viewed by many as outdated  remnants of the “bad old days”  Personal ads in Newspapers where all you had to go on was a few written lines and a voice are so old hat, its hard to believe  it took off at all.

One die hard criticism of online dating involves the so-called factor of “chemistry”, which supposedly cannot be predicted through two-dimensional (internet) interactions. Consequently, on the first “real” date, weeks of involvement and intrigue may end in disappointment. The wannabe couple fails both Biology and Chemistry because ultimately most people want their counterpart to appeal to them physically. No matter how much the chemistry flows, if you don’t like the look of them, it all goes out the window.

Through the sheer force of a vibrant technology and marketplace, online dating has evolved remarkably. The advantages to the consumer now clearly outweigh almost any conceivable drawbacks.
1. Countless testimonials have related stories of genuine online chemistry  and love developing long before actual and fulfilling “first dates”

2.  Many sites have “flirting functionality” that allows users to make advances with minimum conversation thus avoiding unnecessary awkwardness.

3. I Love Your Accent http://www.iloveyouraccent.com among others, makes geographical barriers fade away and can open a surprising world of travel, adventure, and learning to those interested in long distance romance and friendships.

4. With only a few necessary resources, a computer, accessories, membership fees, you are ready, day or night, to enter the discreet and relaxed universe of cyber-dating.

5. Sorting functions, profiles, search engines, pre-screening, and even personality tests deliver quantity, quality, and especially organization to your quest for the potentially perfect date or mate

6. On the cyberspace playing field, social class and gender barriers are often overcome by the fact that every player is in the same place, to play the same game. It’s a crowded field but the possibilities are limitless!

7. Bad-hair days ,nothing-to-wear, a runny nose or other embarrassing zit-like calamities that might befall you, will never again put you in time out. You can even lose a few pounds while you sift through your potential suitors.

8. You can avoid the fruitless, time-consuming, effort of having to find appropriate venues to meet other singles: smoky bars, single’s clubs, church socials, boring parties and the person that your friend just knows is fabulous for you.

9.  In the introductory stages, Instant Messaging (IM) and emails produce far fewer misread signals or anxiety than, for example, that first dinner date. For instance, if you receive an email or IM you perceive as inappropriate then immediately Block that member and they are gone from your world for good.

10. “Parallel” dating, by email, instant messaging, or real-time audio or visual, with as few or as many people as you like, is par for the course, Online no one will judge you for “dating” more than one person at a time.

11. Embarrassing chance meetings with past lovers, inquisitive co-workers, other dates or your ex wife (husband) become a non-issue.

12. There is no shortage of variety in online dating. There are huge sites  that don’t charge at all, and sites that require a small fortune. In between there are many niche sites that cater to all tastes, be it erotic, , gay, religious or transatlantic romance. The choice is endless.
13. Eliminate the many expenses of offline dating, such as dinner, movies, drinks, etc, by discovering the fatal flaws of your acquaintances online, before meeting in-person

14. E-conversations and online chatting tend to be more honest, frank, to the point, and involve less emotional risk, particularly when dealing with larger questions of compatibility.

15. Whether you are on the giving or receiving end, rejection is much less messy, hurtful, or embarrassing when transacted online.

16.  Most dating sites offer tools that allow for the safety of anonymity, the avoidance of unwanted contact, and do-it-yourself screening. Most sites will take swift action to complaints received about one of their members

So, if you’re having a hard time meeting someone offline, you might want to give meeting someone online. Millions of people, just like you are using online dating sites to meet someone. Who knows? One of them might be right for you, after all, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

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1. Realize that you may not actually become someone of high status. Just because you feel and act like one doesn’t mean that others will necessarily agree that you should be one. Even though you know those people are beneath you.

2  Be Confident, it is utterly important that a Queen be confident, as she must rule a Kingdom (if she does not have a king, that is). You may apply it to this case as well, even if you do not actually rule a Kingdom.

3. Bathe and groom regularly. A Queen is someone of high stature, and as such she must also have excellent personal hygiene. Think back to your school days and try to remember that one person who everyone thought needed a shower- were they very highly regarded?

4 Get your hair and make up  styled professionally. Try an elegant up-do that makes you look beautiful, is unique, yet calmly royal. That is, don’t make your hair look crazy; it may look cute, but it’s not the look you want. Get your nails did too.
5 Replace your wardrobe with expensive but unfashionable clothes. They should exude royalty and look  fancy; stay on top of the game. When you look like royalty, you will feel like royalty.

6 Tell yourself every day that you are royalty, above the rest, and something special. This helps build your self confidence, which is extremely important if you want to feel like a Queen.

7 Practice your smile often. You should look happy to be there, yet feel as though they are the ones who should be happy you graced them with your presence. After all, you are royalty. Learning how to smile with your eyes is a good idea as well; people can see right past a fake smile, but smiling with your eyes makes you look genuine even though you are not.

8 Move gracefully whenever you walk and practice proper posture. Part of acting like a Queen means you are elegant, and part of elegance is gracefulness and posture. Walk as though you are gliding.

9 Expand your vocabulary and speak clearly. This will make you sound (and most likely feel) smarter, which in turn will boost your confidence. It may also convince more people to agree with what you’re saying, since you will sound like you know what you are talking about. Saying words like “Thee “ often will convince people you are royalty.

10 Act diplomatically with other people. Being diplomatic is about staying calm and influencing others to see things your way while keeping good relations up. The key is to have a clear goal of what you want from the diplomatic encounter and attempt to achieve it by being calmly persuasive. Though a large part of this goal is good relations, don’t be afraid to stand your ground when necessary to get what you want.

11 Treat your friends as though they are royalty as well, not the peasants they really are. Just treat them with  some respect, as they will be the ones to stand by you and defend you should you ever need it.

12 Realize that, at the end of the day, you are not perfect. This is essential to prevent an emotional breakdown; those who strive to achieve perfection fall short and their perfect world comes crumbling down when they realize they’re as human as the rest of us. But you, after all are a Queen.

Addendum, follow all these steps then wait for your medication and ask the nurse to escort you back to your padded cell.

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